The most flourishing people focus on doing their best every day, so their performance and the quality of what they do is at a high level. However, many people think that it is not good to try to do your best every day, because the resulting internal pressure affects well-being and life. Despite everything, internal pressure, stress and anxiety are natural when we strive for excellence at work and in life. The prerequisite for doing your best is harnessing your mind and emotional health, which includes becoming aware of and applying deep thought, emotional and identity patterns. Then, for example, we react less to daily worries and sorrows. In the following, I will present three ways that you can use to get the best out of yourself in a healthy way every day.

Away from perfection

Doing your best every day often awakens in people insecurity, a feeling of inadequacy and fear of failure. Many people think that doing their best is all about perfection. It’s really about a harmonious balance between relaxing and doing your best. Then the internal pressure is not too great, but still enough so that we can perform at the top level. Then as humans we want to do our best without the need for perfection. For example, the mental and emotional pressure of a competitive golfer who is close to winning a tournament can become too great in the final meters, causing the grip to slip and the victory to slip away. In such a situation, the person has taken the pursuit of excellence too far and tries to force himself to do his best. Forcing oneself destroys the ability to do one’s best.

High expectations for yourself

High expectations are connected with the goal of being a master in everything you do and in what kind of person you want to be. Then we pay more attention to the details in the way we are, do and interact. We experience an inner desire to strive for skill personally, professionally and in relationships. According to research, people who use their own identity in their way of thinking are better at breaking unhealthy routines and creating a dream life that looks like their own. For example, you can avoid unhealthy food if you repeatedly say to yourself: I am not a person who eats unhealthy food. On the other hand, the effect is not as effective if you say to yourself: I don’t want to eat unhealthy food. In the first you connect your own identity to eating, in the second you don’t. You can apply the same method to anything in life.

Desire to serve others

The most flourishing people focus on serving others on a daily basis. They feel a deep need to do their best without a stick or a carrot, because the stake is doing good for other people. They think that it is necessary for them as human beings to do their best for others. This can be related to leadership and parenting, for example. As a leader, for example, it is easy to get carried away with daily tasks without thinking about what kind of role model leader he should be today. Or as a parent, for example, it is easy to dive into performance mode without consciously thinking about how you, as a parent, could support the child on an emotional level in this moment. There is sure to be one or more people in your life who need your best input. If you can feel this in your heart, it will immediately change your energy level.